The One Key to Taking the Hassle Out of Dressing with Confidence

How do you start your day?

Do you happily open your closet door and easily select the clothes you’ll put on? Do they make you smile as you get dressed and see yourself in the mirror? Do you feel comfortable in your own skin, knowing you look great and can handle what the day has in store for you?

If that describes your daily experience, congratulations! You’re among only about 4% of women worldwide.

Unfortunately, too many women start their day frustrated and unsure about what to wear, and unhappy about how they look.

Does this scene look familiar?

You look with bewilderment at your closet full of clothes and think, “I have nothing to wear.” You get stuck in the clutter of items and wonder, “Does anything even go together?”

You try to put an outfit together that suits the occasion, and your mind races:

  • Does this shirt match these slacks?
  • Does this color wash me out?
  • Should it be tucked in or left out?
  • Does it make me look heavier than I am?
  • Maybe a bit sloppy or frumpy?
  • Maybe this belt will polish it off.
  • Okay, maybe I should change the pants.
  • No, this skirt is probably better.
  • Oh, shoes!
  • Are these too high for this skirt length?
  • Are these too bulky?
  • I guess these work, if I don’t have to walk too much.
  • Should I wear a necklace? Let me try a short one… oops, no maybe a longer one.
  • Which earrings will look good without detracting from the necklace?
  • It might get chilly. Will this sweater look good? Or should I wear this jacket instead?

And finally an exclamation of distain, “I hate my clothes! I look awful! How can I show up like this?” Or maybe you say something to yourself that is even worse…

It all adds up

Of course this fiasco doesn’t always happen. You probably have things you wear over and over again because you know they look good. You feel good in them. Confident. Even beautiful.

We are creatures of habit. When we create an outfit, or buy one that is “supposed to be worn a certain way,” we repeat it. This is one reason the average woman’s closet contains so many items that never get worn.

Research shows that, if you are like most women, you only wear 20% of the clothes in your closet.

The remaining 80% of your clothes add frustration to your life. And can even discourage you from stepping out into the world with confidence.

So, what to do about this…

How we feel about how we look makes the biggest difference in how we present ourselves to the world and how the world responds to us.

I have a process that gets you to the point where you know how to look your best, love your reflection in the mirror, and feel great about yourself. You develop a new level of self-confidence. You become empowered to live life on your own terms. Here’s how it works:

  1. Identify your style personality based on your authentic self. You’ll never again feel out of character in your clothes.
  2. Apply art principles to flatter your unique appearance. You’ll never again question what looks good on you and what doesn’t.
  3. Create a Look Book from the clothes in your closet. You’ll never again struggle to pull an outfit together.
  4. Mix and match your clothes for different looks. You’ll never again have an overstuffed closet with nothing to wear.
Apps make the process easier

I use the app Hue and Stripe with my clients to create their Look Book. We photograph everything from their shoes, jewelry, scarves, belts, to pants, jackets, tops, skirts and dresses. We categorize each item into season and occasion. Next, we create Looks from each item, and most items get multiple Looks transcending seasons and occasions.

Like any organizational system, once it’s created it’s there for you. You don’t have to remember how you accessorized your favorite dress, or what shirt looked best with that power suit. Just look up any item and see all the possible ways we determined that piece could be worn.

We can even shop online in the app. When you purchase an item, the store’s image gets transferred into your virtual closet where it is filed into the right occasion and season and paired with other pieces to make new outfits.

It’s simple! It’s fun! It’s a time saver! It’s a morale booster!

This is a done-for-you approach: done by us for our clients. We do the whole process to make your style express your true and best self, and we create your Look Book to serve as your virtual stylist.

Do you prefer a DIY approach?

If so, here’s a list of free apps you might want to look into. You can even use Pinterest.

The main thing is photograph your wardrobe and keep your visuals organized.

Android only:

Android and IOS:

Think about it

I bet you have systems for other things in your life. Why not for something as fundamental as getting dressed every day?

Of course organizing your wardrobe saves you time and money. It reduces frustration. More importantly, it empowers you with the knowledge of which items make you feel confident and ready to face the world. It creates the environment for you to you achieve Success thru Style.

Take action

If you use one of the free apps I’ve listed here, please post a comment. We’d love to hear about
your experience with it! If you want, we could even showcase some of your favorite Looks.
If you’re interested in the done-for-you service, please book a free consultation with me to see
how we can get started.

How to Love the Clothes in Your Closet

Did you know the research shows the average woman only wears 20% of the clothes in her closet – this means 80% are simply clutter.

So, why not pare your closet down to the 20% that you wear?

You might have some things that you rarely wear, clothing for special events, weddings, funerals, graduations, black tie affairs, ski trips, etc. I’m not talking about these items. I’m interested in the rest of the things hanging in your closet and falling out of your overstuffed drawers.

For most of my life, my closet was a big, fat mess, overflowing with clothes that I seldom wore. There were piles on the floor of items that I went through that morning because I couldn’t figure out what to wear.

Sound familiar?

Just thinking about it makes my heart race like loud banging music that won’t stop. But now my closet is like a beautiful soft melody.

With a bit of organization and intentional thought, now all of my hangers match. I have a lovely overhead light that is bright enough, but not too bright. All my clothes are hung by type and color. I only have the current season and only the clothes that currently fit me in my closet. It is a place I like to be. My accessories are accessible. My shoes stacked neatly.

What about you?

Even if you have a well organized closet, I recommend reviewing everything you own twice a year. I do it in the transition from winter to spring and summer to fall. I touch everything. I have an intimate relationship with my clothes. We are on a first name basis. I know what’s there and when I wore each item last.

Can you do this???

I recommend you go through everything you own and

Ask yourself
Do I wear this item?
If yes,
Does it still fit me well?
Is it still in good shape?
Is it outdated?
Do I love it?

If no,
Is it because it’s an orphan (an item with nothing that matches)?
That is the only reason to keep it – in which case you should plan to shop with the intention of completing a few Looks that you love with that item. Otherwise it’s time to let it go.

You really should only have things in your closet that you love, that look amazing on you, that tell the story of who you are, and complement your features.

It’s not uncommon to wear things that don’t meet these criteria and it’s not uncommon to have beautiful items in your closet that you don’t wear because you didn’t finish the process to make a complete outfit with that item.

Let’s face it. We are creatures of habit. Our whole life is built around thousands of tiny habits. Perhaps we are just habituated not to wear many of the clothes in our closet.

We get up at the same time, to the same alarm clock and the same sound, we either walk to our scale or the bathroom or the sink to brush our teeth, then to the shower or the coffee pot, or our closet and we wear our favorite jeans, slacks, dress, with our favorite jewelry and shoes and the day continues like this. It’s how we’re built.

If we want to break a habit or create a new one. We need to be intentional about it. There are lots of ways to do this, but it starts with an audit. I recommend these steps:

  • Get comfortable and set aside a few hours to focus on you and your wardrobe.
  • It’s best to do this when you feel good about how you look, put on make-up do your hair so when you look in the mirror you like the reflection you see.
  • Plan to touch every item in your closet. If you don’t have time to do it all. Start with the high value pieces and focus on the current season. Make sure you evaluate the pants, dresses, skirts, tops, shoes, belts, scarves, and jewelry that you think you would wear in the next 90 days.
  • Try everything on. Ask yourself if you were trying that item on for the first time in a store, would you buy it? If not, why would you keep it? You deserve to feel beautiful, stunning, your best, everyday!
  • Check out the condition of each item. If it is pilling, stained, ripped or worn, it’s time to let it go.
  • If it is dated and reminds you of a time from your past, it’s likely a statement about times gone by. Let it go.
  • If you love it, put in on the shelf, or the drawer or the hanger. If you don’t love it, decide if it should be donated to someone less fortunate or potentially sold at a consignment shop to reap a small return on your investment.
  • If the item is not something you would wear this season but you still love it, pack it up and store it for when the weather changes. Even if you love it, if you won’t wear it soon, it is clutter. It is something you will need to weed through to get to the items you will wear.

Yes, it takes a time commitment to do this work. But when your closet is organized, clean and tidy, it will be a place you want to be. You will feel inspired to create outfits and you will leave feeling great about yourself.

5 Tips to Organize Your Closet and Love Your Wardrobe

5 Tips to Organize your Closet and Love your Wardrobe

Did you know that the first week of October was National Get Organized week? Maybe you are just now hearing about it. No worries! It’s never too late to jump in and become clutter free!

Albert Einstein famously pointed out that “if a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign?” Thomas Edison, who had a famously messy desk, would have surely agreed.

This concept has comforted me at times, but honestly, I’m not sure that I agree.

Just think about how you feel when you are amongst clutter … versus how you feel in a beautifully designed room that’s organized and has a place for everything. When I tap into my true feelings on this, I realize that I actually feel more creative and peaceful in a tidier space and more anxious in a messier one. How about you? How do you feel? Would a clutter free space make you feel more calm?

Let’s think now about your closet. How does it make you feel? Is it cramped and dark? Are there clothes in piles, things hanging off the rack, shoes in a pile? No shame here.

For most of my life my closet has been a big mess, overflowing with clothes that I seldom wore. There were piles on the floor of items that I went through that morning because I couldn’t figure out what to wear. Sound familiar? Just thinking about it makes my heart race like loud banging music that won’t stop. But now my closet is like a beautiful soft melody.

With a bit of organization and intentional thought, now all of my hangers all match. I have a lovely overhead light that is bright enough, but not too bright. All of my clothes are hung by type and color. I only have the current season and only the clothes that currently fit me. It is a place I like to be. My accessories are accessible. My shoes stacked neatly. What about you?

Here’s a few suggestions:

1. Do a wardrobe audit.
When was the last time that you did an audit of the clothes you actually wear? This is step one. Learn what works for you and what doesn’t. What shapes, styles, colors, patterns are right for you? Make sure they fit you, perfectly. Make sure that they are in season and that they aren’t dated. Studies show the average woman only wears 20% of the clothes in her closet. Why not pare your closet down to only the 20% of clothes you love? Buy quality and mix and match them in new and different ways.

2. Get matching hangers. Do your hangers match?
Your closet will feel more organized and tidy if your hangers match. There are a variety of different options available to you: Plastic hangers – this is an affordable option. Pick your favorite color and have fun with them.
Wood hangers, especially cedar wood helps absorb odors and protects your clothes against moths and other insects. Another idea is Huggable Hangers. Their ultra-thin design can triple your closet space, and their non-slip velvety finish holds on to clothes. No matter the option that you decide to go with, having them all match will help you begin to feel that your closet is more organized.

3. Organize your accessories.
Accessories make the outfit. Do an audit of your shoes, jewelry, scarves and belts. Follow the same rules as your clothes and decide what to keep and pass on. To make sure you use your accessories, be certain to make them visible. Organize them in ways that they are neat and tidy, but also visible so that you keep them top of mind and actually wear them. Donate any jewelry that you don’t wear often or you feel is outdated.

4. Check your lighting.
Make sure the lighting is bright in your closet so that you can really see the colors, textures and patterns. Also, if you can, have a full length mirror in your closet or nearby as well as a hand mirror so you can see your backside.

5. Organize by type and color.
Once you get everything in order, take the time to organize by item type and color. I put all my tops no matter the sleeve length and style in order by color, from light to dark. I also separate my pants, skirts, dresses and jackets in the same manner. This is likely how you get dressed. You decide first on pants or a skirt or a dress and then look for the right color to accompany that piece to pull the full outfit together. Not only will this help you get dressed and create great outfits. It will be visibly appealing.

When your closet is organized, clean and tidy, it will be a place you want to be. You will feel inspired to create outfits and you will leave feeling great about yourself. Hope this helps!